yeah, i overheard it in dc
yeah, this entry is dedicated to something sad to hear, but here goes...
location: ozio's 1813 m st, nw
specific location: second floor by the steps
the set-up: man talking to lady (really all up in her personal space) and "complimenting" her
man: "i mean, what more could a man ask for? you got it all - light skin, light eyes, AND light hair!"
woman: "um - okay"
okay - is it just me, or have some of the brothers simply lost their damn minds! i don't have a problem with you dating whoever you want, but honestly - is that what is really going on through your heads? the guys i have dated have been all different shades, colors, and sizes - but is the definition of "what more could you ask for" actually the above conversation? i beg to differ. even though i don't have a set standard of what i look for in a man - complexion wise, is it the reverse for women? geesh!
with the self-hate dialogue set aside, what is the definition of beauty these days? what do men look for in women? i grew up in the south and believe it or not, this was NOT the set standard of beauty. as far as dating went, everybody i knew made their mark on each color included in the rainbow; the point: it wasn't an exclusive thing.
anyway, give me some feed back people.... this was truly disappointing to hear this coming from a brother's mouth. that was one of the most ignorant things i've heard in a while. it just left me wondering if some of us continue to have this negative self image about ourselves?
i'm expecting the worst on the comments but no - i'm not hating; "thank god" this caramel girl has a wonderful, wonderful man! seriously, just ask - i'm a proud girlfriend!
okay - so i always bring you something to help take it all in. what better than the "doll test" only this time - the year 2000 version.. take a look at this, i can't find the full version anywhere:somebody get me a glass of wine... fast..
posted by dcsavvystar at 18.2.07
7 Comments:
Ughhh! Too bad you had to hear the comment, your ears could have very well fallen off.(lol) I think there are a lot of guys who are into complexion, and I think there are a lot who aren't. It's a shame that any of them can be so narrow-minded at this point in history, but it is what it is....
All sad stereotypes aside, isn't it interesting that he couldn't ask
for more than these three surface characteristics of a woman?
I mean..."what more CAN a man ask for??"
Here are some suggestions:
Intelligence
Ambition
A sense of humor
A good heart
Loyalty
Respect
Am I weird to ask for these things in a partner, or are we crazy to
expect someone to value them as qualities that we possess?
I dunno. It is pretty late so maybe I'm delirious, lol. Girl, what
do you think?
First, Thanks Sugar for sending me over here... I have to admit I had to read it for myself... BUT as sad as this situation is, what's worse is that I am neither shocked or surprised. We always talk about how women are taught that they need to look a certain way to be attractive...but our baby boys are being taught the same message... and they are learning it very well. Now though most men won't actually say it out of their mouths... they definitely will say it with their actions and reactions in a room of similarly attractive women of different complexions...
Smooches!
Man…Sad, it’s sad that he would verbalize something so idiotic. Not saying the lady he was speaking to was not beautiful, but to fetisize someone is creepy.
Second, the colorism slave mindend pseudo Hindu-Aryan caste system mindset of black people in America (and everywhere else) is just sick, I pray we get past that trife.
This only further corroborates one of my past blog entries entitled "Intra-racial Color Discrimination?" It may be very true that this particular female was considered to be very attractive in his eyes, but to express "you've got it all...!" really takes his comment regarding her beauty to another level!
Upon reading this I was disgusted but the main question that is burning me is how did the young lady respond to this comment, I know I would have been completely turned off. (I am not light skinned however but if I was)...I mean if she responded to that in a way that satisfied him then thats what is really sad....He needed to get chin checked for that one
Im fair skinned (look at my big ass glowing face on my blog), and I dont think you were hating on light skinned people at all. Ive heard men say similar shyt and worse, and I wonder the exact same thing: have we only gone this far as a people?
And dont even get me started on the fetishization - I HATE it! All we can do is take pride in our own individual, natural beauty, educate our youth to do the same. Hopefully, well get this worked out.
L
Post a Comment
<< Home